My Faves for Monday, December 10, 2007

The acute desire to express oneself rests upon a wish that others pay attention to our need so we can know it and see what really matters to us. But attention rests upon mutual recognition, the bedrock for loving relations. The painful silence of unspoken words traps one in solitude and loneliness.
Beautiful photos and a gripping video included.

[tags: design, health, relationships, loneliness, solitude, photographs, music, video, gay]

 

“Photo of the Day: Sleeping Beauty II.” This is an elegantly sensual photograph. Very sexy, to say the least!!

[tags: Photo of the Day, Sleeping Beauty II, sexy, stud, gay, photograph, culture, cultural]

 

“Alone in a Crowd: The Heart is a Lonely Hunter.” This is a very touching piece. It includes beautiful, captivating photographs and an exquisite photo-gallery. In addition, it concludes with an original music video entitled “Alone in a Crowd.”

I deeply hope that you will treasure the experience offered by this composition.

[tags: Alone in a Crowd, lonely, alone, gay, photographs, video, music video]

 

“Happy Holidays: Behold the Feelings of Joy.” Wonderful, engaging photographs of people showing great feelings of happiness and joy, presented for you in high-resolution. This piece is accompanied by a very enchanting music video, entitled “Joy.”
Take a look, I sincerely hope that it gives you some pleasure during this holiday season!!

[tags: Happy Holidays, Joy, happiness, holidays, Christmas, Xmas, photographs, video, music video]

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The Painful Silence of Words Left Unspoken

The Painful Silence of Words Left Unspoken

The Painful Silence of Words Left Unspoken

Some have proposed examining the concept of silence from the perspective of its extremes, for example from society’s long tradition of maintaining silence about madness or mental illness, to the most personal internal silence, which produces the press of an intense desire to express oneself and unburden the soul.

From my own perspective, that press of the intense desire to express oneself is really secondary. The desire to express oneself rests upon the wish or hope that someone will recognize our need so that we can know it, so that we might discover what really matters to us.

In everyday life, all of this has to do with the more personal issue of developing a loving, mutually reciprocal relationship. Maintaining a mutually reciprocal relationship with others or another (for example, in the case of a loving relationship) depends upon developing the capacity to listen, to hear the other, to pay attention to the other. The process of paying real attention to the other involves having the experience with/of the other perceived as outside the self, as well as an experience with/of my subjective conceptualization or impression of the other.

At this point, things begin to become more complicated. For example, beyond attention, we have both a need for recognition by the other, as well as wishes to be able to recognize the other in return, to experience a cherished other and have a co-constructed personal involvement that is distinctively characterized by a sense of nourishing, mutual recognition. However there is an inevitable tension between connection and separation, the self’s wish for absolute independence conflicts with the self’s need for recognition. In trying to establish itself as an independent entity, the self must yet recognize the other as a subject like itself in order to be recognized by it. This immediately compromises the self’s absoluteness and poses the problem that the other could be equally absolute and independent.

Each self wants to be recognized and yet to maintain its absolute identity: The self says, “I want to affect you, but I want nothing you do or say to affect me, I am who I am.” In its encounter with the other, the self wishes to affirm its absolute independence, even though its need for the other and the other’s similar wish give the lie to it.

This confrontation with the other’s subjectivity and the limits of one’s self-assertion is a difficult one to mediate. The need for recognition leads to a fundamental paradox; in the very moment of realizing our own independent will, we are dependent on another or the other to recognize it. At the very moment we come to understanding the meaning of I, myself, we are forced to see the limitations of that self. At the very moment that we understand that separate minds can share similar feelings, we also begin to find out that these minds can also disagree.

The ideal resolution of the paradox of recognition is for it to continue as a constant tension between recognizing the other and asserting the self. It is for this purpose that carrying on a co-constructed, mutually reciprocal loving relationship with another necessarily entails ongoing practice in the sustaining of contradiction. The latter is an ability that is enhanced to the degree that we are willing to appreciate, preferably embrace, the uncertainty that is inherent to our involvement in everyday life, to the choices that we make and to what might possibly emerge from those choices.

Words Left Unspoken: No Murmur, No Sigh of Relief

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My Faves for Sunday, December 09, 2007

“Happy Holidays: Behold the Feelings of Joy.” Wonderful, engaging photographs of people showing great feelings of happiness and joy, presented for you in high-resolution. This piece is accompanied by a very enchanting music video, entitled “Joy.”
Take a look, I sincerely hope that it gives you some pleasure during this holiday season!!

[tags: Happy Holidays, Joy, happiness, holidays, Christmas, Xmas, photographs, video, music video]

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